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Posted 04/07/2022 in Theta Healing by Christina Fior

A WOMAN'S JOURNEY: Shape-Shifting Our Beliefs


A WOMAN'S JOURNEY: Shape-Shifting Our Beliefs


Our belief systems, from the moment we are born, are acquired by our experiences and the choices we make within the realm of those experiences. 

Our beliefs and their associated emotions become layered which stack up, one over the other, like an onion. At the center, holding all these beliefs together, lays one or two core beliefs that have launched our belief spiral. If we’ve embodied a set of healthy beliefs and behaviors, they are likely rooted from positive experiences that took place early in life when our budding psyche was taking in information. We were literally in ‘formation’ of our pending reality. 

 On the contrary, if our young, impressionable psyche was surrounded by negative information in conflict with our innate innocence, we may have become wounded to the core. Over the course of years, these core wounds may have become so shrouded by the layers of our subconscious mind, they may seem inaccessible to identify and heal in present time.

If you or I were told, for instance, that we were born a ‘mistake’ by our parents and were subsequently treated as such, we may have developed a core belief that we are an imposition to life. We may have attracted circumstances that instigate self-sabotaging behaviors and relationships that verify the belief that we are undeserving of being valued and loved. 

Year after year, we might find ourselves living in an unwholesome comfort zone; of either giving up or over-achieving due to feelings of unworthiness to be brilliant, productive and loveable. We may have lost touch with love’s embrace and have long forgotten the original grand design of our lives that is still well within our reach.

Liberating Our Wounds

As we celebrate women who have become fully empowered feminine role models, in our hearts we intrinsically feel the pain of women grieving all over the world. Many of us have been mourning the loss of loved ones, the loss of our innocence, the loss of our feminine power and the missed opportunities along the way. The good news is our wounded selves are on the threshold of massive transformation and ultimate liberation!

Discovering our core wounds is an inside job that requires kindhearted self-inquiry. Getting in touch with our internal damage can often evoke feelings of guilt, shame, and self-condemnation. When this occurs, we must realize that we’re getting somewhere! This is a moment when we can become aware of the vibrations we’ve been carrying around, perhaps for our entire lives, or even in former lives—not knowing the keys for loving ourselves free. 

It’s time to listen and respond from within. Silent contemplation followed by sounding out the pain we’re feeling inside (as described in Chapter One’s Self-Love Ritual) are great catalysts for getting in touch with the hidden core wounds experienced at the early stages of life that have continued to run our show as adults. The act of contemplation bridges our outer awareness with our inner terrain. By sounding out the repressed emotions, we can release them from our cellular holding patterns, thus allowing us to externalize the pain associated with our layered wounds. 

These wounds often begin to reveal themselves to us through mental and emotional self-talk that arise during the self-inquiry process such as: I’m damaged goods; or anything bad that happens is my fault; or God has abandoned me.

Having forgotten how truly powerful we are, we may have assumed these beliefs as our life laws. Unconsciously, we may have employed an emotionally charged agreement with these beliefs and subsequent behaviors within our cells, thus becoming sorcerers of the worst kind upon our own soul. 

We may have forgotten that we contain within us, the capacity to positively renew our cellular beliefs with a higher level of mindfulness. Knowing that our conscious, quantum universe continually reflects and refracts what we give our power to on multiple levels, we can literally “catch ourselves in the act” when unwholesome patterns arise, and course-correct with positive affirmative behaviors. As we do so, we attain a stronger internal compass by which to steer the course of our lives.

We Are Fluid Beings

This planet is being peopled by superior creatures who are going to save us,

but they aren’t arriving from the outside; they’re arriving from the inside.

They’re bleeping in and out. They’re our future selves coming back to

pick us up, in order there might be a future.

—Marianne Williamson

One of the most interesting phenomena our world’s population is caught in, is ‘static’ behavior that often stems from indifference. We’ve forgotten what it’s like to live as fluid beings who allow the tides of emotions within us to rise and fall. 

It’s natural for all of life on Earth to dance with the cycles and gravitational pull of the moon, sun, and planets. Rather than deny our emotions and our passions, we can learn to employ effective ways for embracing them to enhance self-realization and communication with others. We can then begin transforming these emotions into powerful acts of co-creation with God as divine currency, leading to a more fluid and abundant life.

Our Emotions as Divine Currency

Consider for a moment, that your emotions (positive or negative) contain a power so great as to attract to you, the result of your emotionally charged beliefs. I like to refer to this as divine currency. Divine currency is a neutral force we are born with. This currency is tempered in our lives by our beliefs and the type of emotional associations we attach to our beliefs.

This explains why emotional release work is so effective. 

The water content within each of us serves as an internal record keeper—a magnetic field of our emotionally charged beliefs. As we transform our beliefs, we change the vibration of the water in our cells which holds the resonance and the attraction principle of that belief within our electromagnetic field. 

Personally, I love to release my pent-up emotions while walking alone on the beach. I literally shout out my truths and my emotions (and engage my body in the process) as I jump and dance to the ocean’s timeless waves. The waves continuously lap up against the shore and remind me of the continuum of life beyond my moments of being stuck. This ocean ritual provides for me, a magical recharge of my divine currency by helping me release and transform my emotions and affirm my self-respect.

Another benefit of expressing our emotions while barefoot at the beach or in a lush nature-infused setting is that our internal circuitry becomes recalibrated by the power of earth’s electromagnetic field. Our bodies become grounded and infused with negative ions which in turn produce healthy cellular activity. 

Artistically Express Rather Than Repress

Each of us are born to be artisans of personal expression. There is no greater joy than freeing our energy from emotional prison.

When it’s not possible to be in nature, we can surround our environment with plants, fountains, gemstones, music, and a variety of essential oils. 

100% pure essential oils can bypass the blood brain barrier, rapidly absorb and interact with receptors in the central nervous system to help support healing. These essences so refined they’re able to penetrate through the olfactory receptors (sense of smell) to the limbic (emotional center) of the brain. They also penetrate to the hippocampus, which is associated with the storage of working memory and short-term memory, and the pineal gland, which is often associated with spiritual development.

Simply by breathing in the pure scent of lavender or rose, as well as holding a pure quartz crystal in our hands, our sensory experience can transform our internal landscape.

Intaking pure water flushes stress and toxins out of the body, keeping us chemically balanced and internally fluid. Nature is our best psychologist if we slow ourselves down enough to truly take in the power of its earth medicine. 

Dancing to rhythmic or tribal beats allows our primal spirit to come out to play as we release our stuck energy. Who said emotional release work can’t be fun? As a matter of fact, we should laugh in the face of it, because anything that makes us feel unloved is a joke!

Many of us have learned to be ‘troopers’ and stoic instead of expressive. What fun is that? It’s important to cry when moved to do so, to breathe deeply and fully and emphasize a giant release of our emotions via the out-breath. Shallow breathing causes us to hold in stuck emotions and is thought to be a major contributor to the proliferation of degenerative diseases in the body. When nothing else is possible given the situation, breathe and exhale!

Smiling: Your Hidden Superpower

Have you ever noticed how attractive and even magnetic people are who regularly smile? They can cause others to smile spontaneously as if they hold the grand secret to happiness. Smiling as a regular practice, holds multi-dimensional powers. Here’s why:

Our states of happiness are either active or passive. So, instead of waiting for circumstances to make us happy, we can create habits in our lives that intentionally produce a blend of neurochemicals to flow such as dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin and endorphins. These become the neurotransmitters in our brain that chemically influence our states of happiness.

The simple act of smiling is one of the most powerful activators of this neurochemical cocktail in the brain. Because of this, smiling can also serve as a natural anti-depressant and pain reliever.

And clearly, we’re better-looking when we smile! When we smile people treat us differently. We’re viewed as more attractive, more reliable, peaceful and sincere. 

Neuropsychologia, an International Journal in Behavioral and Cognitive Neuroscience, published a study on the effects of someone viewing an attractive, smiling face. A person smiling toward another was found to activate the viewer’s orbitofrontal cortex, the region in the brain that processes sensory rewards. 

This suggests that when we view a person smiling, we actually feel rewarded. So, when we ourselves smile, we’re not only stimulating our own neurochemical cocktail, but we also have the gratification of positively affecting others. This enhances our self-worth by generating positive emotional associations with those around us.

How do we begin the act of smiling beyond our comfort zone? We need to become unstuck. It begins by expressing our emotions in fun, playful ways which creates a cellular release of our stuck energy. As the emotions in our cells become freed, smiling becomes a natural form of self-expression.

Singing, dancing, humming and even growling out our emotions provides us with a cellular release. It can renew our spirit and help us gain perspective that we’re living and acting out precious moments in time. So why not make our moments an artistic expression of our multi-dimensional self? Is it any wonder that music, with its many nuances, inspires a palette of emotions that influence our lives on so many levels?

Falling in Love with Our Brain

Looking more deeply into our neurology, we discover how profoundly our brain shapes our perceptions and makes us uniquely who we are. The human brain itself contains nearly one-hundred-billion neurons along with hundreds of trillions of connections between those neurons. Our brain interacts with other brains, which comprises an estimated 700 billion neurons. One might say that the human brain is like a vast galaxy.

We carry this incredibly intricate organ wherever we go. In addition to filtering our perceptions, it tells our body systems how to function and move. It houses our powers of recall, reasoning, and articulation. Each brain is vastly unique. It is a vessel for our soul’s distinctive self-expression. The grand mystery to be discovered is how to unlock our brain’s higher levels of potential.

Renowned psychiatrist and author of Unleash the Power of the Female Brain, Daniel Amen, MD speaks of ‘falling in love with our brain.’ He’s states that females have radically more brain activity than men. The advantage to this is that we have amazing powers of perception and an astounding capacity for multi-tasking. The challenge is that our brains never rest. We’re always making ‘to do’ lists. We worry more than men and are more sensitized to life’s complexities. 

Restoring Natural Order in Our Lives

One way we can love our brain and give it a rest is to clear the clutter out of our lives; to simplify, organize and make room for spaciousness as a personal lifestyle. This allows us to be more present, peaceful, and purposeful. 

Daily, our bodies are bombarded with toxins. From house cleaners to perfumes, pesticides and EMF toxicity, our organs and brain cells absorb and retain these toxins which then contribute to disease and skew our perceptions. Optimal brain health mandates a more natural, eco-conscious lifestyle for supporting longevity and mental clarity. 

Daily, we become sum of our accumulated life choices. Knowing how powerful this idea is, we can change the quality of our choices and create a refreshing new result for our lives.

It Starts with a Vision

You may have heard the saying, “Life without vision is nothing more than television.” Sadly, many people discover late in life that their lives have vastly become the result of a cascading set of imposing circumstances that have nothing to do with their vision.

Some folks are born with a sense of destiny while others develop their life vision along the way. Circumstances outside of our control can also lead us to our destiny, while others detour us from our path. The key is to discern how our happiness, our sense of purpose and our relationships are benefitting as result of our life circumstances. We can then recalibrate as the need calls for it.

Emotional Resilience in Relationships

As long as we’re in human form, we will inevitably interact with people and circumstances that will challenge our levels of emotional equanimity. As soon as we feel we’ve mastered an emotion, something may present itself that will shake us to our core.

In his book, Emotional Resilience, David Viscott speaks of the importance of transforming our toxic nostalgia. In other words, to avoid the accumulation of toxic nostalgia, we must communicate to others when we experience hurtful behavior by them. The key is to directly address the offensive behavior to the source close to the time that it happened in a manner that is self-honoring, objective and respectful to all concerned. 

By doing so, we can become emotionally resilient rather than emotionally stuck. By avoidance, hurt can recoil into feelings of repression, anger, guilt, self-condemnation and ultimately, self-destruction in one form or another.

At times, I’ve found that when someone has behaved toward me in a condescending or hurtful manner, it has been a shock to my system simply because I don’t operate that way. So, I’ve found myself temporarily experiencing a form of emotional paralysis in the face of adversity. 

I’ll take a moment to reflect as to whether something a person has said or done is a true offense, or whether it has triggered an old wound I need to heal within me. I’ve learned to process my feelings during meditation or in nature to gain a clearer perspective. 

I’m then empowered to express myself to the person, if needed, from a more heart-centered place. Letter writing is also a great way to communicate with those who tend to be defensive or confrontational. Upholding our core values without finger-pointing toward the other’s shortcomings is a great of self-love practice. 

Talk to the Hand, Talk to the Heart!

Accepting ownership of how a statement or behavior impacted us while explaining the standard of how we expect to be treated, allows the other person to reflect upon their behavior and accept ownership for their actions without confrontation or humiliation.

Using this as a continued self-love practice, it’s easier to stand up for ourselves with internal strength the moment an offensive situation occurs. The evolution of this practice will result in a clearer magnetic field within you and me which makes space for us to view situations with more objectivity and humor. 

The state of victimhood is so institutionalized in our culture that it has become part of our collective belief spiral where we commonly classify our roles in difficult situations in the form of the ‘victim or perpetrator,’ underlying fear or guilt. It is time for liberation!

We’re in this together! It’s important to have self-compassion for the difficult situations we’ve endured while we also transform our attitude that has shaped our world view into an ‘us and them’ mentality. Individuals who behave poorly have their own story of pain behind their actions, we can only control our reaction to them. 

We’re each here to experience ourselves as unique facets of a quantum world that is continually reflecting back to us and to one another, varied, fascinating aspects of our collective human story.

Positive Self-Talk

No longer will I accept crumbs from the table. I’m the banquet, baby!

— Christina 

By the nature of being human, we may still find ourselves at times struggling with negative self-talk by the hidden wounded self. A highly effective technique for transforming old patterns from our cellular ‘record keeper’ is to daily reinforce positive self-talk, personal affirmations and actions that support empowering new behavior and positively charged emotions. 

For instance, in response to the earlier discussed accumulated beliefs stemming from being unwanted at birth, we could say or pray:

I now see that I’ve been holding myself in captivity with feelings of guilt and shame for being born; and that I’ve felt unworthy of love. I also recognize that I’ve allowed others to determine my worthiness. 

I am releasing from my heart, my mind, my DNA and my cellular awareness, the cause, effect, record and memory of these unwholesome beliefs and feelings. Grand Creator of all Life, re-pattern within me the absolute knowing of my worthiness and the confidence to live out my highest value in this lifetime.

An affirmation of resolution could sound like this:  

I am a brilliant child of Creation, born of love and providence. Daily, I am attracting the persons, places and things that support me, my brilliance, and my passions in the highest and best way. I am actively bringing my best self forward while uplifting and inspiring others along the way.

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This article was taken from Christina Fior’s Book: SELF-LOVE: A Woman’s Book of Healing and Inspiration. Purchase the Book on Amazon, along with Christina’s other book: SUPERNATUAL LOVE MEDICINE: Ignite Your Supreme Feminine Potential.

SELF-LOVE: A WOMAN'S BOOK OF HEALING AND INSPIRATION

SUPERNATURAL LOVE MEDICINE: IGNITE YOUR SUPREME FEMININE POTENTIAL


 

 

 


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